3. Don’t say you are going to visit a person and not show up.
Yes, everyone is very busy. Life and shit happens whether good, bad or indifferent. Remember, I am at home, mandated to bed rest after having major surgery. I can’t get in the car and drive to a desired destination. I can’t pick up the phone at chat with you for hours on end because you are at work and have other responsibilities. But know I am expecting your visit. Your call. If you tell me you are coming, I am making an effort to clean the house. Make it smell good. Hide all of my medicinal supplies. It is very disappointing if you don’t show up and not call. I think I don’t matter to you. The best way to mess up a relationship is for one or both people to assume what is going on. You know what happens when you ASSUME (you make an ass out of you and me).
I am not as strong and invisible as it may appear. I am actually afraid and welcome your company. I may seem tired and out of it because I am! Try taking pain killers every 4-6 hours to function. I welcome the opportunity to take may mind off of looking in the mirror every time I undress for a shower or have to clean the dressings covering my scars and see the remains of what used to be. Just because I am tired does not mean I need rest. I have all day and night to rest but for now, I want to enjoy you and your company. We do not even have to say much, we can watch a movie or one of my favorite judge shows. Judge Mathis will entertain us for a good hour, guaranteed! Know that I appreciate you and your time alloted to spend with me. There is a saying that it “takes a village to raise a child” well it “takes a village to nurse one of their own back to health.”
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