“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 4

4.  Don’t tell me about the rumor you heard regarding “June or Joe” who died several months after being diagnosed with breast cancer.


I remember the day the doctor diagnosed with me cancer as if that day was today (not yesterday, but today).  The shock never goes away.  The battle becomes your daily grind.  Again, I have to get my mind right in order to deal with the matter at hand.  I am trying to live.  Choose the words that you want to convey to me wisely.  Encourage and uplift me with your words.  Don’t tell me who recently died, that is like speaking death into my life; no death sentences (literally!) for me.

 A sorority sister of mine battled cancer for many years.  It started while she was in college with a diagnosis of breast cancer that metastized over the years throughout her body.  Her battle continued for over 20 years until the Lord called her home early August.  Upon receiving the phone call, my heart went out to a sister friend who leaves a teenaged son behind to mourn but I would not be human if I did not say how personal her death meant to me.  Death so close to home makes me visualize my thankfulness to be alive but also how one day a test can give me a result that will shake me to the core.  I want to live an additional 5 decades so I can tell those around me about my life experiences.  I want to beat the odds after enduring a masectomy, hormonal and radiation treatments.  I want to talk to others and be an inspiration.  I want to speak face to face with believers not through my writing.  Angel left us all too soon.  At the age of 45, I believe that  is just the beginning of a coherent story.  I pray that she lives on through her family, friends and in me.


God created me; my parents nurtured me and I am still living, learning, and loving.  There is much more for me to do in this life.  I do believe God is not ready for me yet as I have not finished His work here on earth.  I need you to help me to live in abundance Grace.  You can send me a text; send an email, pick up the phone and dial my number or simply smile and wave when you see me walk by.  Not all days are good for me.  You can help me move a frown into a smile in a matter of minutes.  If you don’t know it, I appreciate all of you and your heartfelt kindness.  Thank you for acknowledging me and thank you for continuing to be a part of my life.



Treva Jeanice


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kathleen Wicklund
    Aug 22, 2011 @ 00:10:53

    Treva, when I knew you 30+ years ago you always made me smile. Today I read your blog and you brought me to tears. You are a very beautiful person and I am glad that I know you. You are full of life, you are always positive and your faith is a true blessing. I have begun to get a better understanding of what you are going through with this blog. I’m so glad that you are sharing so that myself and others can overcome our own fears. Please take good care of yourself, the world is a better place because of you!

    Kathy (Hall) Wicklund


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