“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 6

6.  The doctor and hospital that you used is the absolute best and come highly recommended.


There are many qualified surgeons and hospitals to handle patients who are diagnosed with cancer everyday.  Some doctors and hospitals have a better marketing department to promote their abilities than others.  Some staff have grants and more funding than its competitors.  Please don’t sell your surgeon and hospital as if that is the only option available.  I know you mean well, I really do, but remember each person’s needs are different.  What worked for you may not necessarily work for the next person.  Don’t make someone second guess themselves or feel doubtful because their choice is different from yours.


Some people like experienced doctors, others prefer young doctors who may be on the cutting edge of medicine and clinical trials.  Some patients prefer doctors who attended schools that are familiar; some like doctors of the same hue.  Ask if a second opinion is needed.  If so, you should definitely relate your professional experience with doctors and hospitals known to you.  Always offer your guidance of suggestion and leave it there.  Please don’t take offense if you are not called upon.    It is not about you at this time; let’s focus on the person in need.

Whatever makes the soon to be operated on individual comfortable; so be it.


At the end of the day, the doctor chosen has most certainly earned his/her PhD.


The surgeon and the patient will co-navigate the path towards recovery and do just fine.  Successful treatment can happen when a rapport is built between a surgeon, plastic surgeon, medical oncologist, radiation oncologist and patient.  Let’s not forget the nurses and front desk staff.    Each person plays an integral part in the well-being of the patient.    At the end of the day, let’s celebrate one another’s victory and triumph.

2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Shagufta Abbas
    Aug 23, 2011 @ 22:32:28

    Nice write up. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and she was sent to the ‘best’ hospital for the best and the most expensive treatment that was being offered at that time. Sadly, she didn’t survive. While her treatment was going on, another professional we had refused to chose came to my mom once and told her that oh, this xyz cancer you have is incurable and what not and that’s when my mother’s will power went to drain.
    The hospital staff reports that he did this out of jealousy from the doctor who was treating my mother; but whatever the reason be, my mom lost her hope after that incident.

    I so hope people in such noble professions would understand how important each step of theirs can be.


    • trevajeanice
      Aug 23, 2011 @ 22:44:21

      Medical professionals have worked hard to earn their degrees but must realize bedside manners is another skill they must learn. Doctors are held in high regards and should take their occupation seriously. Thank you for the comment and know that I understand you as a “Motherless Daughter”. I too lost my mother and am thankful that I have her memories.


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