Words To Live By… – Heartfelt Heat

“Books allow you to be whoever you want to be; to escape yourself for a while.”

“The real thing when done right is always better than a dream.”

“Take life by the horns and ride that wave for all that it is worth.”

“May your feet take you where your hearts wants to go.”

“If you love someone, tell the person.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is truly ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is vested in him or her.”

“When love is a non-binding contract, it really isn’t love after all.”

“Why does Black Lives Matter for only 28 days out of an entire year?”

“We all need to feel significant, security and prioritized.”

“Make sure to run the race of life with patience.”

“Walk worthy within the life that you have been called for.”

“The mind is the key to change of minds, attitudes, and beliefs.”


College Tips For You, My Daughter

Daughter Pillow

  1. Pray daily and be thankful for His Grace and Mercy.
  2. Learn your surroundings. Become familiar with the entire campus.
  3. Be open to new friendships and cultures.
  4. When in need of help, don’t be afraid to ask for it.
  5. Build relationships with your professors.
  6. Keep your dorm area clean, neat and organized.
  7. Secure your belongings so you don’t lose track of them.
  8. Focus on your studies. This is your time to shine.
  9. Eat healthy and drink lots of water.
  10. Balance your school work and extra-curricular activities.
  11. Rest well so you will have the energy to conquer each day.
  12. Enjoy and appreciate your independence.
  13. Keep cash stashed away for incidentals.
  14. Call me and let me know how you are doing.
  15. Remember, you are loved.

A Thoughtful Travel Itinerary

Maria talks to her six-year old daughter constantly about girl empowerment.  She wants her to believe that she can do anything that she puts her mind to.  They often sit and discuss current events taking place across the  United States and within the community in which they live.   No question and answer are off-limits.  A recurring subject in the household is the homeless population that plagues NY.  The child wished that each person had a place to call home where they could rest their head in comfort as well store all of their clothes.  Maria and her daughter discussed the meaning of shelters and how they are used as temporary housing to assist those less fortunate.  The child appeared to understand.

A week later, another topic of discussion was world travel.  Maria shared with her daughter all of the places she has been able to visit and vibrantly described each location hoping to entice interest.  “Lil Maria” devised a travel plan all on her own and could not wait to share with her parents.  She waited until her parents finished dinner, requested they all sit in the living room and listen to her plan.  The little woman animated her travel plans to the Caribbean and Europe and the length of her stay at the various sites.  Maria posed a question, “That sure is a lot of travel.  What type of transportation will you take and where will you stay?”  “Lil Maria” proudly announced, “I will fly from place to place and stay at shelters until I make it back home!”  Maria looked at her husband in astonishment and quickly regrouped to continue conversation about shelters and introduce as well as share, new information about hostels.

Highlights of Harlem

photography of moon at night

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Ain’t nothing like the nights in Harlem. Uptown is definitely where it’s at. Over 20 years of bright lights in the little city made for a picture perfect postcard that is engrained in the memory of my mind.
The sounds of music emanated from the grand edifice located at the corner of 145th street and Broadway. Broadway International was the place to be on Thursday nights. The DJ spun memorable vinyl of Afrika Bambada like, “Planet Rock” where the house was rocking, party non-stopping and revelers demanded that music pumped to the break of dawn.
Nightfall bought sweat dripping, feet hurting and stomach churning, as we took a ride across town to the infamous Sherman’s for spaghetti, ribs and their infamous cole slaw. It was a combination that settled the spirits that floated within the lining of our digestive system. Party goers raced home in hopes of containing the grease that saturated the take out brown paper bag. We, creatures of habit, followed the same pattern week after week, year after year for quite time.  Oh how I missed the days of care free fun and eating.

Dating and the Single Parent II

Some say the best way to meet eligible people is to stroll through a park on a bright sunny day. Some say men stroll through the park with young children as a way to attract the ladies.  Not so in the case of one father who strolled through Central Park in New York City with his young daughter in tow.  Stopping to rest on a park bench, the two were approached by a very attractive young lady who liked what she saw. 

The woman moved in to strike up a conversation with the father who is known to friends as “someone who never met a stranger.”


“How are you sister?”

“I am fine thank you.  Enjoying the day?”

“Yes I am.  My daughter and I are out here appreciating the fruit of the lands.  It is indeed a beautiful day.”

“How sweet.  You are a good dad.”

“Thank you.  She is my world.”

“I bet.  Here is my number.  Call me if there is room in your world for me.”

“No thank you.  There is no room whatsoever for you today or the next.  Don’t you see I am enjoying the day with my daughter?”


True story…

Dating and the Single Parent

Real girl talk inspired the following story:

“Sherry” knew the relationship was moving in the right direction when “Dwayne” invited her and her daughter to Thanksgiving dinner with his family.  In preparation of meeting Dwayne’s Mom, siblings and cousins; Sherry meticulously groomed her nails, hair and choosing the right outfit for the special occasion.  Sherry knew all about Dwayne’s previous romantic relationship with “Shelia” who was a staple within his family household for quite some time. 

Upon arrival at the family home, Dwayne’s daughter beamed towards her dad’s lady friend.  The adult daughter took Sherry by the hand and led her to the middle of the living room floor.  Wanting to be the one to make the introductions, Dwayne’s daughter announced for all to hear; “I’d like to introduce you all to Shelia and her daughter.”  The room fell into a deafening silence.  The mistake was made and the giant elephant had entered the building and not one person would acknowledge the faux pas. 

Sherry pretended as if she was just not called another woman’s name.  She proceeded to take a seat on the sofa next to Dwayne. During the course of the holiday celebration, people continued to address her as Sheila.  Sherry pulled her cell phone from her handbag and furiously typed a text message.  Immediately after firing off the text, Dwayne stood up from the sofa and made his own announcement.

“My lady friend Sherry as said if one more person calls her Sheila; she is going to cut someone!”

Not one person ever made the same mistake again!

I am thankful.

It is the day before Thanksgiving and I am pausing to reflect on the 2011 year.

It has been a year of revelations, recuperations, and the best of all, blessings.

I am thankful for witnessing my son’s graduation from high school and entry into college.

I am thankful for having the opportunity of watching my beautiful daughter mature.

I am thankful for the ability to comfortably communicate with my children and deal with life dilemmas.

I am thankful as I watch a family expand as we celebrate the 2nd birthday of my niece.

In today’s economy, I am thankful to be able to return to the workforce for a Company with an open door policy.

Most importantly, I thank God for providing me with courage, faith, and perseverance to continue the legacy put in place by my parents.   Nick and Nadine are not with me physically but will forever remain figures in my mind, soul and heart.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone and remember to be thankful for the small things.


Treva Jeanice

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