“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 9

9. Not everyone diagnosed with breast cancer will have to undergo a mastectomy.

 

There are options.  Depending on the diagnosis and stage of the cancer, there are several options available for recovery:

– A mastectomy is the surgical removal of one or both breasts to prevent the spread of cancer.

– A lumpectomy is a surgical procedure that removes tumor tissue in the breast.

– Radiation is the treatment process for cancer in which cancer cells are destroyed in order to help people become cancer free. 

– Chemotherapy is a treatment process used including various drugs to treat cancer.

One or more of the options listed (accompanied by healthy eating habits and exercise to stretch the limbs and mind) will be used to help the individual lead a closely monitored, cancer-free life.

“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 8

8.  Don’t feel sorry for the patient.

Encourage them! 

Many people tend to ignore the “elephant in the room.”  Recognize the “elephant” and say, “I am here if you need me or want to talk.”  Claim victory over all lives affected by the disease of cancer.  Believe me, those words are keepsakes remembered, treasured and perhaps to be unearthed when needed.

Cancer attacks the  body and causes patients to be extremely tired.  Discomfort, frustration, exhaustion and sometimes anger may rear its head from time to time.  Be the one who lends an ear, a hand, and a shoulder to cry and lean on.  Cancer plays upon one’s self-esteem; no one wants to see pity in the eyes of the beholder. 

Tell us that you know or heard what we are facing.  It does our heart good to hear you are only a phone call away.

The actions of one multiplied by thousands, can change the world. 

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“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 7

7. Do not believe that cancer only affects older people.

 

Cancer does not discriminate.  Cancer is the name for more than 100 diseases that have uncontrolled, abnormal growth of  cells that can spread into and destroy healthy tissues.  Not only can it destroy healthy tissues, it can destroy healthy minds and souls if one allows it.  Cancer can be hereditary or an isolated illness.  Cancer can strike the young, old, weak and strong.

A healthy forty six year old female can wake up one morning, arise from bed to enter the bathroom, disrobe and discover a rather large lump on her breast.  There is no pain; should it be ignored? 

No pains = no worries; wrong!

The onset of a cold or allergies prompted a doctor visit and the disclosure of the lump.  The matter of fact statement to a primary physician turned into a referral to the nearest breast center for a series of mammograms and four biopsies performed in one day.  The outcome was inevitable after such an invasive day.

 The results of a malignant tumor was discovered.  They say, early diagnosis  can lead to a good prognosis. 

 I am continuing to take every step needed to live longer and build upon my birthdays.

“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 6

6.  The doctor and hospital that you used is the absolute best and come highly recommended.

 

There are many qualified surgeons and hospitals to handle patients who are diagnosed with cancer everyday.  Some doctors and hospitals have a better marketing department to promote their abilities than others.  Some staff have grants and more funding than its competitors.  Please don’t sell your surgeon and hospital as if that is the only option available.  I know you mean well, I really do, but remember each person’s needs are different.  What worked for you may not necessarily work for the next person.  Don’t make someone second guess themselves or feel doubtful because their choice is different from yours.

 

Some people like experienced doctors, others prefer young doctors who may be on the cutting edge of medicine and clinical trials.  Some patients prefer doctors who attended schools that are familiar; some like doctors of the same hue.  Ask if a second opinion is needed.  If so, you should definitely relate your professional experience with doctors and hospitals known to you.  Always offer your guidance of suggestion and leave it there.  Please don’t take offense if you are not called upon.    It is not about you at this time; let’s focus on the person in need.

Whatever makes the soon to be operated on individual comfortable; so be it.

 

At the end of the day, the doctor chosen has most certainly earned his/her PhD.

 

The surgeon and the patient will co-navigate the path towards recovery and do just fine.  Successful treatment can happen when a rapport is built between a surgeon, plastic surgeon, medical oncologist, radiation oncologist and patient.  Let’s not forget the nurses and front desk staff.    Each person plays an integral part in the well-being of the patient.    At the end of the day, let’s celebrate one another’s victory and triumph.

“I Know You Mean Well, But…” Post # 4

4.  Don’t tell me about the rumor you heard regarding “June or Joe” who died several months after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

 

I remember the day the doctor diagnosed with me cancer as if that day was today (not yesterday, but today).  The shock never goes away.  The battle becomes your daily grind.  Again, I have to get my mind right in order to deal with the matter at hand.  I am trying to live.  Choose the words that you want to convey to me wisely.  Encourage and uplift me with your words.  Don’t tell me who recently died, that is like speaking death into my life; no death sentences (literally!) for me.

 A sorority sister of mine battled cancer for many years.  It started while she was in college with a diagnosis of breast cancer that metastized over the years throughout her body.  Her battle continued for over 20 years until the Lord called her home early August.  Upon receiving the phone call, my heart went out to a sister friend who leaves a teenaged son behind to mourn but I would not be human if I did not say how personal her death meant to me.  Death so close to home makes me visualize my thankfulness to be alive but also how one day a test can give me a result that will shake me to the core.  I want to live an additional 5 decades so I can tell those around me about my life experiences.  I want to beat the odds after enduring a masectomy, hormonal and radiation treatments.  I want to talk to others and be an inspiration.  I want to speak face to face with believers not through my writing.  Angel left us all too soon.  At the age of 45, I believe that  is just the beginning of a coherent story.  I pray that she lives on through her family, friends and in me.

 

God created me; my parents nurtured me and I am still living, learning, and loving.  There is much more for me to do in this life.  I do believe God is not ready for me yet as I have not finished His work here on earth.  I need you to help me to live in abundance Grace.  You can send me a text; send an email, pick up the phone and dial my number or simply smile and wave when you see me walk by.  Not all days are good for me.  You can help me move a frown into a smile in a matter of minutes.  If you don’t know it, I appreciate all of you and your heartfelt kindness.  Thank you for acknowledging me and thank you for continuing to be a part of my life.

 

XOXOX

Treva Jeanice

 

“I Know You Mean Well, But…” #2

#2.  Do not ask to see the mastectomy scar.

That is just plain rude.  Why would I whip out my boobie(s) and expose myself just to satisfy your curiosity?  If a newly diagnosed person needed to and wanted to see the transitional stage; perhaps, maybe I would consider.  I am not a freak; I am not on display.  Respect my privacy and I do yours.  A mastectomy is a removal of the breast which is very personal and in some instances, define a woman.  Imagine having to show your spouse or significant other the scar at some point in the relationship and the fear one carries  of rejection that may or may not take place.  If you think it, you usually believe it.  We survivors carry self-esteem issues and do not need the added burden of exposures to others outside of family and medical specialists. 

Yes, breast reconstruction is available.  Reconstruction are implants.  A substitute; to take the place of.  While the phase is taking place, you pray your plastic surgeon is shaping and molding the new creations to your liking.  Will they be too large?  Too small?  Too high? 

Expanders are inserted immediately after surgery.  They are uncomfortable initially and take some getting used to.  A visit to the plastic surgeon’s office each week will assist you in “expanding your bust”.  It is true for women, “no pain, no gain.”  Try having someone inject saline solution into each breast/sac for boob development.  Painkillers become your breast friend.  Just remember to not to become dependent upon the sedated feeling.

Again, I know you mean well but don’t say that…

ACHIEVE

Avoid negativity at all costs

Capture your dream and hold onto it

Honor yourself first

Initiate goals for your life

Educate yourself on a daily basis

Visualize where you want to be and make it happen

Establish yourself as a winner!

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